Do you talk to yourself? If you do, are you aware of what you’re saying? Many people who work alone (or at home) have a tendency to talk to themselves about mundane things. Or they’ll be mumbling away when they’re shopping or out just walking around. But this isn’t what you need to be aware of. What’s more important is your personal self talk — and whether you’re practicing positive self talk or not aware of negative self talk habits.
It’s sometimes hard to get away from negative self talk. As soon as you put that first negative thought into your head, your brain takes it and believes it is true. Then it begins to build on itself and pretty soon that one thought is running out of control on its own.
For example, remember when you first started that new job that you had been waiting for forever? You were probably just so happy to finally be accepted for your talents and what you have to offer. That feeling can last forever – or you can ruin it in short order by events that happen and how you think about them.
In your new job you will meet people. Some of them will recognize your work and accomplishments and complement you on them. Others will be so jealous that they will try to put you down in an attempt to get more of their own complements. At this point, you may start negative self talk about these people or worse yet, about your new job that you used to love so well.
When this happens, the positive self talk you previously had about your new job is slowly replaced by negative self talk. This self talk will eventually completely destroy your happiness and ability to do your work in a productive manner. You begin to hate going to work in the morning; seeing certain people, etc.; misery sets in.
But it doesn’t need to happen this. When you work at positive self talk techniques, the negative self talk never gets in. Now I’m not saying that this is easy to do. Many times you are not even aware that you are self talking. Things are just going around in your mind unconsciously as you work through your day.
This is where positive self talk tapes can come in handy. There are certain positive self talk statements that will recover your self esteem. If your brain waves are really out of whack because of your constant negative mental statements, you may need to re-align your brain waves using brainwave synchronization techniques (which usually come in the form of Brainwave Entrainment CD’s.)
The main thing is to become aware of what you’re saying to yourself, and replace those negative statements with positive self talk.
But be aware of the fact that you have already told your brain many times that the negative stuff is true so it may take a few weeks to replace the runaway thoughts with those that will let you be happy again. And that’s a goal worth achieving! You will be happier, healthier, and able to look past the bad and into the good.
Positive self talk can do a lot more than just help you get through your work day. It can help you stop smoking, or help you lose weight, etc. In fact, I just read about a well-known Doctor who lost 38 pounds while he was shaving because he was practicing positive self-help techniques as he shaved – and amazingly, his wife who was listening to his self talk also lost weight. That’s how amazing positive self help is – The Law of repetition works!